The Ugly Truth

I was watching Ugly Truth on DVD over the long weekend and I can't help but realize what truth there is, in this phrase.

Face it! The truth is always ugly. Why it is not is because your mind is subconsciously telling you to delude yourself and avoid seeing the truth to that degree. I'm glad Abby (the character in the movie) woke up at the end and decided to be true to herself.

The ugly truths that are currently in my life are:

1) Marriage will always be something that you have to work on and it definitely requires two parties to work it through together. There is no fairy tale, no constant attraction and definitely no everlasting love in marriage.

Having started reading storybooks since young, I never thought to have a handsome prince to sweep me off my feet but I had thought to myself that my heart will flutter when I meet THE ONE and our first kiss will be so romantic that my legs will curl up and I'd feel like I'm floating to the clouds.

Now even as I'm older, I still can't help but feel touched when there is a happy ending to the novels I read. I still can't help but get teary eyed at the sweet moments mentioned and I still can't help but feel a longing to have the love that the characters have in the book.

The truth is the touching moments have to be created, the love needs to be nurtured between two persons to fill up that longing void.

2) Forgive and Forget is a phrase we hear quite often. But are we truly able to abide by it?
For me, sure I'd forgive but I can never forget especially when it is something that has been really hurting. So if one can't forget, does it mean you haven't really forgiven?

The truth is although we have to forgive and forget no matter how impossible things are as you and the other party can only move on then.

3) There are many times where we have to put on a mask to hide our true emotions from others but at times it's even to the extent of hiding from ourselves. You can say that it is worth it when you see a happy smile on the other person's face. However, what does one hope to achieve or see if we were hiding from ourselves?

Anyway, what is the definition of truth?

The truth is the quality of state of being true.

So no matter how ugly the truth is,  we need to face it in order to move on and to become a better person.

Trusting God

I was just reading a book that was given to me with 366 Devotions and I felt that the thoughts that was mentioned on this particular day was exceptionally meaning and thought to share.


The Bible says to "lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding. In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths. Be not wise in your own eyes." (Proverbs 3:5-7)


God wants to hear us say, "Lord, I don't know how You're going to do this. I don't care how You do it. I know it's going to be right. I trust all my circumstances to You. My times are in Your Hands. Trusting You is my first priority in life."


Many a times especially when a bad situation comes, our natural reaction would be to ask God why and also to blame God for letting this happen. We do not think that God has plans for each of us and if such is the plan, he would be directing and leading us to work it through.


I have at many instances doubted God and questioned Him when faced with difficult situations. However, when each situation happened, I've also seen how He had led me through, guided me and comforted me in those times that I now just put my faith and trust in Him to lead us through the dark days.


I hope this verse can be a constant reminder to just trust God and let Him do His Work.

2nd Day In A Foreign Land

At this time as I’m writing my blog, it’s actually 2am on the 3rd day that I arrived this foreign land.


People commented that NW / DL is the lousiest carrier going to the States but I didn’t feel any difference as compared to the other flights I’ve sat on like Cathay, Qantas, Garuda, etc. The flight was smooth sailing except for occasional moments of turbulence which I think it’s really normal.

Our first league was from SIN - Tokyo. It was a 7 hour + flight and I slept through the whole flight like a baby. I only woke up on occasions to eat and I went on back to sleep. Same goes for my 2nd league from Tokyo - Portland. I spent another 9 hours + flight sleeping and waking up just to eat snacks or dinner. The meals served on both flights were pretty nice I must say. I think I’ve eaten worse flight meals.

The last league from Portland - Boise was slightly more choppy as it was just a propellor plane. Again for that 1 hour + flight I was sleeping through. Adrian wonders if the air sick tablet that I had taken before my first flight was this powerful that is causing me to sleep almost the entire 18 hour flight excluding the transit timings. I absolutely have no idea :)

Portland wasn’t as cold as I anticipated but my gosh, it was really cold when I stepped into Boise. There was a football team coming back at the time when I arrive Boise airport so there were some videographers and reporters. For a minute I was wondering if they were welcoming us :P

There was a small issue when I arrived Boise. One of my luggage didn’t travel with me and I had to do a claim at the Baggage Service. It was a good thing that I had packed winter clothes in both my luggages although I was missing my skincare and moisturizer.

Ok that’s all for now... till later.

What It Takes For Beautiful Teeth

I must say, a lot of effort is indeed required to maintain a good beautiful set of teeth. It’s no wonder people pay so much to visit their dentist especially those celebrities. And of course, if you have excess cash to spend every month, you can pay a visit to your dentist more regularly.

I also finally understood the work needed to maintain my teeth and it certainly didn’t end after removal of my braces. I wore my braces for 2+ years. Took the top off for about 4 months for my photo shoot and wedding. And although my teeth is not completely ready for the braces removal, I had to get them removed since I was going off to the States. I would say my teeth are 98% complete but that’s where more hard work is required just when I thought I could relax.

I took my retainers this afternoon and although I’m amazed at the gadgets available just to maintain the straightness of the teeth, I can’t help but also sigh at the effort I have to continually put in by wearing the retainers constantly and also cleaning them. The retainers aren’t that difficult to wear but they are a little uncomfortable though to the plasticky area which rests at the top and bottom of the mouth.

Also I would have to wash the retainers daily; not just with water but brushing them with toothpaste as I would for my teeth. Right before I was leaving the dental clinic, I was informed that the patient before me had some infection as he didn’t clean his retainers thoroughly and the retainers got moldy and infected his mouth.

My my... that sounded scary. I guess I should also be thanking my lucky stars that I would be working from home as otherwise that means having to wake up 1/2 hour earlier so that I can do the necessary before going to work.

No wonder there’s this saying in Mandarin, “There are no ugly women in the world, just lazy women”.

1st Day of Year 2010

Thought I’ll start my first entry on the start of the new year.

2009 indeed flew by in a blink of an eye. I thought of a few things today; my departure to the States, Carolyn, my family, things I’m gonna miss.

It’s always easy to just take things for granted especially family as they are always close by and even if they may live a distance away, it is at most an hour drive to reach them.

We went to Winnie’s house after lunch. And although we were playing our own games on the pc, it led me to reminisce our younger years when we studied together, read together, slept together and basically lived in the same flat together. Winnie and I have our own families now so even though there are occasional opportunities of staying together, the feel is no longer the same. It got me thinking to how much I’ve missed having been away from them.

We had our early reunion dinner today. I think I’ve enjoyed our cousin gatherings for 2009 and through those gatherings, we have become closer. There are also more things to talk about now than before. Seeing them again today made me feel that yes, we are family. I’m gonna miss those gatherings and food sessions.

Auntie Fong gave me a gift for my departure. It is a book titled New Day New You and is a book that will help me gain wisdom and inspiration from God’s words. I will definitely read it everyday. This is also 1 of my resolutions for the new year. There’s no better time to receive this book. Really appreciative of it.

Ok, I shall sign off now. Juggling between my Cafe World, Famville and packing. Gonna be busy for  the remaining hours of the night :P