The Ugly Truth

I was watching Ugly Truth on DVD over the long weekend and I can't help but realize what truth there is, in this phrase.

Face it! The truth is always ugly. Why it is not is because your mind is subconsciously telling you to delude yourself and avoid seeing the truth to that degree. I'm glad Abby (the character in the movie) woke up at the end and decided to be true to herself.

The ugly truths that are currently in my life are:

1) Marriage will always be something that you have to work on and it definitely requires two parties to work it through together. There is no fairy tale, no constant attraction and definitely no everlasting love in marriage.

Having started reading storybooks since young, I never thought to have a handsome prince to sweep me off my feet but I had thought to myself that my heart will flutter when I meet THE ONE and our first kiss will be so romantic that my legs will curl up and I'd feel like I'm floating to the clouds.

Now even as I'm older, I still can't help but feel touched when there is a happy ending to the novels I read. I still can't help but get teary eyed at the sweet moments mentioned and I still can't help but feel a longing to have the love that the characters have in the book.

The truth is the touching moments have to be created, the love needs to be nurtured between two persons to fill up that longing void.

2) Forgive and Forget is a phrase we hear quite often. But are we truly able to abide by it?
For me, sure I'd forgive but I can never forget especially when it is something that has been really hurting. So if one can't forget, does it mean you haven't really forgiven?

The truth is although we have to forgive and forget no matter how impossible things are as you and the other party can only move on then.

3) There are many times where we have to put on a mask to hide our true emotions from others but at times it's even to the extent of hiding from ourselves. You can say that it is worth it when you see a happy smile on the other person's face. However, what does one hope to achieve or see if we were hiding from ourselves?

Anyway, what is the definition of truth?

The truth is the quality of state of being true.

So no matter how ugly the truth is,  we need to face it in order to move on and to become a better person.